Kristen Bell, who has been a strong advocate for mental health awareness, is raising the curtain to share how she and her husband Dax Shepard helped each other through difficult times during the pandemic.
“At the beginning of the pandemic, we cut our throats, and then all the doors to our house were closed, like we had to stay inside, and we thought, ‘Wow, we have to handle the hassles,” Bell said Tuesday in “The Ellen. DeGeneres Show “.
The two enrolled in couples therapy and faced difficulties again last fall when Shepard, who had been sober from alcohol and cocaine for 16 years, relapsed on pain relievers after a motorcycle accident.
Bell shared Tuesday that her therapist shared hers suggested another approach to dealing with the conflict.
“He suggested that we go to therapy separately, a little bit so we could talk (curse) about each other,” Bell said. “And we did, and it was amazing. What we’ve been doing for the past few months is, every two weeks or so, I’ll see (our therapist) Harry through Zoom and complain about Dax, and then I’ll give all reasons I’m wrong, and then Dax will do the same. ”
She concluded, “And then when we meet at night, we love each other again because our toolboxes are bigger.”
Bell had previously spoken out about anxiety and depression since she was 18, which she said was compounded by the challenges of COVID-19.
“I know I introduce someone who is always very upbeat and happy, and very often I am, because I have some really great tools,” Bell, 40, told Self in an interview published last month. “But there are definitely days when the alarm goes off and I say, ‘No, I’m staying here. That is not worth it. … I will stay in this cocoon just because I need it; because I feel very, very, very vulnerable. ‘
I have a hard time distinguishing between my emotions and someone else’s emotions, and that is not a compliment to me. It’s a very dangerous thing to play, “she said, noting that the avalanche of bad news resulted in a” mental zone that was not healthy for my family. ”
Enter: Shepard, who gave you tough love that was initially hard to bear: “‘Hey quick, are you helping someone right now by sitting and crying on your bed, or are you just indulging yourself?’ “He remembered what he said. “‘Get up and donate money or donate your time or do something to help, or accept that story, give it some love and come here and be a good mother and a good wife and a good friend and live your life honoring suffering what’s going on in the world ‘. ”
“How dare you?” she said she at first, but she knew that ultimately it was what she needed to hear. The conversation prompted her to donate to No Kid Hungry and to donate blood to the UCLA Blood and Platelet Center.
Bell turned to Shepard as someone who “elevates vulnerability to an obsessive level.”
“If we talk about who is being forced to grow up, I’ll give them credit,” Bell said of her husband. “He’s good at trying, and that’s all you can ask of anyone. No one is perfect. He has shown me that he is committed to evolution and that he loves personal growth.”